Sunday, 26 May 2019

Crazy. Young. Us

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On last Friday, 24th May 2019, I was having a chit-chat with my office colleagues about various things; notably of which was 'how much we have changed in recent years!’


The conversation started when we noticed that the photo on the ID card barely matches the people wearing it. There is a noticeable difference in face and all that jazz around it. They instantly declared my id to be somebody else's. I didn't doubt them. I have changed a lot. 

After this, we began scrolling through each other's Facebook timelines of the early days of Facebook. A steep stretch of embarrassment and a mild smile at the corner of the lips, remembering those old days, could be easily noticed. There were multiple occasions of each person disbelieving it to be themselves who could put a status or share a poem like that EVER in their life. But it was us, we knew. 

While I was scrolling through my Facebook wall, I could see dance videos, relationship advice, and life lessons. Can you imagine, life lessons coming from a 16-year-old me! I was astounded. Or was I? I leave it with you to decide.

Anyways, I scrolled through almost every single post and was enthralled, embarrassed but also proud. Proud because I used to come out of my comfort zone and write all those stuff. I used to put in efforts, form a dance group, set the choreography by hook or crook watching other dance videos. Put in hours to make 1 thing at a time possible. And eventually do it. If I wanted to write a story, I used to put in hours and hours to write 1 perfect (in my mind) story and publish it online on my blog and patiently wait for the likes and comments. Even 1 like and a comment was enough to make my day. Or merely the fact of me publishing it online was orgasmic. 

In short, my younger version was bold enough to do what he wants. And if we all look back, we all might be able to relate to this notion.

After realizing this, I instantly asked this question to myself, why am I not anymore the way I used to be? Why am I not that guy who as per one of my friend, involved-into-something-new-every-day crazy anymore? Why have I lost the touch of experimenting or learning new things? What have I possibly done wrong and thought it to be right which has made me this damn lazy and a serious procrastinator?! And the list of similar questions flooded my mind.

was taken aback. I thought about it for some time, thought about it some more, then some more, but all in vain. It is inconclusive still at my end why most of us feel they are lazy and just passing through their life; not living it to the most!

We all might have our own story around it. But in the end, there is 1 thing in common between all of us. One thing that most of us would agree to become. And that is to be the younger version of ourselves again.

For the same, I have taken a step forward by writing this post and sharing it with you all, just like I used to do once upon a time. Tell me in comments if you agree on what I have stated and what could be possible reasons for us becoming, frankly, boring?

P.S: I couldn’t come up with a suitable title for this post! Sorry! :P



Monday, 17 December 2018

Ek Daud

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Sunday, 28 October 2018

A life-changing theory

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“You are the average of 5 people you spend the most time with” – Jim Rohn

A lot of people would have come across this quote and would be like- ‘Kya baat kahin he bande ne’ and started counting those 5 people! Mene to kari he bhai, honestly.

So, if you have not done it and are seeing this quote for the first time, please do the above thing. It is fun.

**A long pause**

Now, what is your feeling around it? Are you happy after analyzing your 5 person circle? Or are you dissatisfied thinking ki saala saari problems ka yahin jad he ki circle acha nhi he? Or do you have some mixed reaction?

Whatever your reaction is, do you think you can change the equation of your life by changing those 5 people you hang out the most with? Do you think the average will better with that? Do you think you will be able to achieve more in life?

For many of us, those 5 people cannot be changed. They are an integral part of our lives for various reasons. And even for the people who can change, they cannot entirely replace people and guarantee success, isn’t it?

Matlab, esa nhi heki kal aap utho aur sabko boldo ki aaj se rishta khatam bhai.  Tu apna dekh, me apna dekhtahun! Iske baad se aapki life set! 

Gaaliyon ke saath laat bhi pad sakti he. :P

So, the last question arises, how can we better our lives, if we cannot change the 5 person circle we hang out the most with?

Here comes a simple Statistical concept which might help you.

“Averages tend to change with outliers in the data”

In simple terms, if you have a very big value in your dataset, it will automatically increase the overall average of the group and vice-versa.

In short, if YOU BETTER YOURSELF, EVERYONE WILL BETTER AUTOMATICALLY.

Somebody might think: “Me akele kaiko mehnat karun?”

“Mat kar bhai, joint account khulwa lo sab aur dharamshala me reho”

Ciao.

Friday, 24 August 2018

The Little Things in Life

Friday, August 24, 2018 By

We always try to keep the people we love as happy as possible. And often for this we keep thinking of what they need? Perhaps, a nice leather jacket or maybe an expensive handbag. We think of such numerous things that would really jell-up the other person.

Our imagination and the efforts leave no stones unturned in thinking about the ways and stuffs that we can just provide to keep things light and happy. Because we care so much, we attach this care and love with materialistic things.

Quite often it works like a charm. It may work 1 time, 2 time, plenty more times, BUT, there will be a limit to it. And after that limit reaches, and the person we care about seems no more interested and happy with whatever things we buy for them, it leaves us into thinking what exactly went wrong all the way through.

The thought of them being unhappy because of us really keeps us on the edge of everything. The feeling is so terrible that we loose to even ponder about the entire situation.

However, we fail to notice that the little things matter a lot in life. Much more than sheer gifts and goodies.

Do not believe me? Try giving your girlfriend a rose on her birthday. Or write her a love letter. Or maybe, try surprising her with a little meal cooked by you.

Tell me if she would be unhappy even after this. Perhaps, these little things would make a much more impact that those gifts.

Because those gifts can be thrown away. But how can someone throw a memory which has touched the person so deep.

How come I know all this? Experience. I missed giving my gf the thing that she cares the most about on her birthday: a story written by me.

It is not that I didn't try writing one. But we writers know that until something doesn't feel right to us, we do not go with it. We need to be 100% sure of what we put across is coming right through our minds and is not conditional or done under pressure.

I couldn't come up with something ideal, ideal from my perspective. And I skipped writing anything for her altogether. And I thought to compensate all of it through gifts and stuffs. It didn't work out and she is angry.

So, never, ever, ever do anything like that. Pull such stunts only at your own risk.

At the end, I only have this thing to say that I hope she forgives me and that I would always remember to keep the little things on priority as those matters the most.

Happy Birthday to her. :)

Wednesday, 14 March 2018

EK AAM KAHANI # 7

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विक्रम एक सॉफ्टवेयर कंपनी में काम करता था। जितनी बड़ी वो कंपनी थी उससे कहीं ऊचे उसके ख्वाब थे। और कहीं न कहीं अपने ख्वाबो को पूरा करने के प्रेशर में वो टेंशन में रहता था। परन्तु उसका स्वभाव दुसरो को अपना दुखड़ा सुनाने वालो जैसा नहीं था। बल्कि वो मुश्किल को सहजता और द्रढ़ता के साथ संभालता था।
परन्तु आज वो बहुत दुखी था। आज एक बिज़नेस डील उसके हाथ आते आते निकल गयी। ये डील उसकी लाइफ पलट देती। वो विदेश की यात्रा भी कर पाता जो की उसका बचपन से सपना था।



'हर कुत्ते का बुरा दिन आता है ' ऐसा आपने नहीं सुना होगा क्यूंकि किसी ने  शायद ही कहीं कहा हो इस आर्टिकल के अलावा। खैर, इस कहानी में अभी विक्रम के बुरे दिन चलते है। आदमी कितना भी सेहेंशिये क्यों न हो , एक न एक समय वो कमज़ोर ज़रूर पड़ता है। ये  वास्तविकता है,  'मर्द को दर्द नहीं होता' सिर्फ अमिताभ जी की फिल्मो में ही हो सकता है। वास्तविक जीवन से इस डायलाग का कोई भी संभन्ध नहीं है। जीवन में मर्द को दर्द भी होता है और आसूं भी निकलते है।

इसीलिए जब भी विक्रम मायूस होता था , वो अपने घर के पास वाली टापरी में जाके शांति के साथ चाय पीता था। वो टपरी चालाने वाले उसके दददू के उम्र के व्यक्ति थे  इसलिए वो उनको दददू तथा उनकी टापरी को 'दददू की टपरी' बुलाता था जबकि उस दूकान का नाम 'श्याम टी स्टॉल ' था। श्याम दददू के बेटे का नाम था जो की कभी कभार टपरी में आया करता था।

उनकी टापरी की चाय विक्रम को सारे दुखो से दूर कर देती थी।  एक अलग सा सुकून था उस जगह में। और क्यूंकि विक्रम वह कई दफा आता रहता था तो उनके बीच में एक घनिष्ट सी बन चुकी थी। दददू विक्रम की कहानी बखूबी जानते थे वो विक्रम दददू  की। विक्रम उनको अपने दादा जी जैसा मानता था। एक बार उनकी अचानक से तबियत ख़राब हो गयी थी , तब इलाज के पैसे विक्रम ने ही दिए थे।

आज भी विक्रम उसी टापरी जाता है। आखरी बार वो २ हफ्ते पहले आया था वहां। मायूस विक्रम टापरी में पोहोचता है।

'दददू एक कप चाय देना ', वो धीमी आवाज़ में कहता है।

उसके सामने चाय आ जाती है। वो उत्साहित होक चाय अपने हाथो में लेता हे वो ऊपर देखता है। ऊपर देखते ही उसकी ख़ुशी थोड़ी कमतर हो जाती है। उसके सामने श्याम खड़ा रहता है। वो उससे पूछता हे की दददू कहा है।

'उनकी पिछले हफ्ते हार्ट अटैक से डेथ हो गयी '

ये जवाब सुनते ही विक्रम के पैरो टेल ज़मीन खिसक जाती है। उसे समझ नहीं आता की ऐसा कैसे हो सकता है। उसकी सारी  सुध जैसे घास चरने चली गयी हो, इस प्रकार वो अचंभित बैठा रहता है। फिर थोड़ी देर बाद वो बिना चाय पिए , चाय के पैसे देके वहा से चला जाता है।

कुछ दिनों बाद वो उस टपरी में शायद फिर से आये। शायद उसे यहाँ आके पहले से भी अच्छी चाय मिले। परन्तु जो सुकून दददू के रहने पे मिलता था वो अब कभी नहीं मिलेगा। आखिर खुशी और सुकून चीज़ ही ऐसी है। जगहों और वस्तुओं से कम और लोगो से ज़्यादा मिलती है।

Tuesday, 5 December 2017

Life After You Start Working

“Bhai, kal tu college ja raha he?”
“Nhi!”
“Chal me bhi nhi jayunga fir”

Felt nostalgic, a little? I sure did.



And this brings me to the first thing you cannot do when you start working, which are such implusive emotional decisions. If you disagree, then remember the number of times you have taken an unplanned leave on a Monday?!

Due to such and many more small yet significant things, I miss the college days and I am sure a lot of you feel the same. After all, those were the days when you could take emotional decisions freely, bunk the classes without hesitation and had a group of friends called your gang who always stuck around through all your highs and lows.

However, now, after you have started working in a company, the table has turned. Performance ratings and appraisals have wiped off emotions and caged in ‘aaj kuch tufaani karte hai’ moments which were in plenty during the college days.

Now, the most tufaani moment is to get that trouser fit in, after compressing that next-to-pregnant-belly, a little, and to leave the office at 6 pm on Friday.

Also, you spend every single day thinking about making more money and using the same to find happiness, which was free back in the college days.

A lot of other changes have come as well, like back then, when you couldn’t afford a McD meal on your own, sadly now, when you can, you don’t have friends to share it with!
Also, in college, when a cup of chai with friends was enough to make our day. Now, even a team party at a lavish 5-star hotel doesn’t give that sort of satisfaction.

Honestly, no matter how many friends you make in your professional life, the place in your heart that your college buddies have can never be replaced (unless one of them went on to be your gf and then ex-gf) because, ‘Aur bhosdike, kaisa he?!’ is more pleasant to the ears than ‘Hey, how are you?!’ (unless coming from a total stranger)

At the end, am pretty sure you too had one hell of a ride this year. A lot of changes would have come, new promises made, few broken, people were left behind, certain life changing decisions would have been taken. 

In fact, a couple of your friends would have even gotten married. But all this while, even if you were not the best version of yourself. Maybe, you couldn’t commit to what you promised at the start of this year. Or perhaps, your office life is totally a lost case, believe this and just remember your college day. Maybe, it won’t fix the current situation you are in, but it would definitely break the stress and lighten the tension, which in most cases is enough to get going.

P.S: Call your college friends more often. Those people are definitely a great stress reliever. Believe this. Ciao!

Thursday, 17 August 2017

Honest Indian Mindset Behind Sarahah

Thursday, August 17, 2017 By , , 12 comments


I had to write about it. The craving was so high that I could not procrastinate it. Sorry laziness, better luck next time!

Sarahah! The name needs no introduction because the chances are quite high that you have already downloaded the app and have waited patiently for those ‘genuine’ appreciations and criticism (milti sabko he, but batata koi nhi he). The picture below describes exactly what I feel about it. Sorry if that hurts your feelings! *Azaad desh ke azaad nagrik ki azaad sooch he*



Now, every time, every single time, I open Facebook, what do I see? People put up the screenshot about an anonymous person who has appreciated them and they ask to get in touch with them.

Bhaiya, banda/bandi isi ka to wait kar rahe the ki kab aap unhe bolenge to get in touch. Unke uparto shraap tha iske pehle contact na kar pane ka.

Isi screenshot ko dekh ke hi to Bruce Wayne ne bhi Gordon ko apni asliyat bata di. Aur Gangadharbhi Geeta Vishwas ka isi cheez ko leke wait kar raha tha! Samjhe!





Anyway, I pondered about the mindset that drags people to follow the bandwagon and download the app. I have jotted down the same thing below in an ‘honest’ manner. My interpretation might not be as apt, but certainly, it will tickle your funny bone:

*Random person, not aware about Sarahah, opening their Facebook account*

“Chull ho rahi he, Facebook kholta hun.”

“Ye kya screenshot laga rakha he aur isme appreciation likhi he. Is bande ke liye appreciation! Hehehe!”

*Scrolls down*

“Fir waisa hi screenshot! Isme bhi jhoot”

*Scrolls further down*

“Bawa re bawa, ye chal kya raha he. Har koi wahi cheez ka screenshot laga raha he”

“Man to kar raha he ki istmaal karu. But mere sane dost fir mera mazaak udayenge ki bheed me shareekh ho gaya. Kya karun?”

“Appreciation ki apne ko bohot laalach to he. But kisi ne gaali bhej di to? Post nhi karenge public me. Hehehe. BUT, agar kisi ne koi tareef nhi kari to? Locha ho jayega!”

“Kya karun?! Bandwagon me shamil hona pasand nhi he, but laalach to ho rahi he.”

“Par kya pata koi bethi ho mere is app ko join karne ke intzaar me, tabhi wo apna pyaar kaboolkaregi mere liye. Jo itne saalo me kabhi nhi huya, is app se ho jaye. Desperation to andar bhara he hi apne me!”

“Appreciation nhi aayi to khud se hi post kar denge. Spotlight to chahiye hi!”

“Bohot pressure he yaar. Aaj tak kabhi esa chutiyapa nhi kiya. Aaj apni izzat dao pe rakhu kin hi?!”

*After not so long time*

*Posts the Sarahah’s link to social media*

Aur isi tarah bik jate he log tareefo ke lalach me!

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