Showing posts with label Relationship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Relationship. Show all posts
Friday, 27 May 2016
Not a love story: Phone a Friend
Note: Is this your first post of the series? Wait. Start reading from here: Not a love story: How they met?
With the passing
weeks, the bond between Sahil and Eshita became weaker
because they hardly talked. Most of the time when he pinged her, she was either
out for shopping or was busy somewhere else. And this thing, after a certain
time, started frustrating him, as he was the ONLY one who, evidently, took
measures to stay in touch.
The situation grew so
bad that he even started to doubt whether the two of them really shared a
special connection ever. Or, whether all of that was just a common affair for
her. Or in other words, she judged the conversations between them within the
boundaries of friendship. Not an inch more, but maybe, a mile lesser. And all
this made him highly distressed.
The signs of unhappiness, dejection and resentment were clearly
visible with the way Sahil started to lose his
calm in minor matters. Due to this, he started to spend more time being alone.
Although, the two of them did talk at certain occasions but it was more
formally tuned. Nothing magical happened that would revive the old Sahil; the one who was
bright and bubbly. It was shocking that a girl could do that to him. That he
would completely loose his mind on her. Undoubtedly, he had his likings towards
her and was seeking for more attention than what he was receiving. All these
things really played a game with his mind. Life was changing for him. Or maybe,
he was changing.
But one final day he decided to
speak to a close friend of his, seeking advice on the same. This was the first
occasion that he has opened up to anybody on his personal life. He always
believed that personal matters once spoken are not in your control. You can’t steer its spread
and exposure. But, he didn’t care any longer about
that thing from happening. Rather, he wished that she (Eshita) could
know what her absence has turned him into.
So, he calls up Rupasi, a-more-than-a-friend-and-less-than-a-girlfriend
kind of friend. They both shared almost everything, except for the relationship
part from Sahil’s end, apparently, which was yet to
make its debut. Rupasi, on the other hand, had a boyfriend for 3 years now and she
has seen many ups and downs in all that time. Thinking of which Sahil thought
her to be the perfect person for contact.
“Hey champ! What’s
the problem, tell me?” said Rupasi assertively.
Almost like she knew that something is wrong the other side.
“What?! I mean, how
do you know?” replied Sahil who was
totally perplexed with the witching skills of his friend.
“See the time. It is
5 and I am in the class. You know this thing and yet made a call. So,
eliminating the odds, something must have really gotten wrong. Simple.
But see the irony, you watch Sherlock Holmes!” she chuckles.
“All hail the queen” responded Sahil with a
grin. It was the first time in days when he genuinely laughed.
“You make me feel good, know this” he added.
“I know, I know. Why
not? I am the only girl who talks to you. And you are not gay from what I know” replied Rupasi while
rolling her eyes and throwing a devilish smile back.
“Oh! Come on. There
are a lot of girls who talk to me…….once in a blue moon” he chuckles.
“Hahaha! Acha tell me the issue. I need to get back to the class”
“Oh! Yeah. Sorry. Long story short, I like a girl who doesn’t give me attention anymore that she used to once. This
thing frustrates me. What to do?!... And if, you need to know the entire story,
then we can have a word when you are free?” asked Sahil in
desperation. He needed a solution to this. Quickly.
“Mmm… hard for me to process anything at the moment. Quick tip:
Call her right away and have a normal conversation. This will seize the
curiosity bug inside you for a few hours. Update me afterwards. Ttyl. Bubye.” She replied almost
with utmost assurance and dominance as if she knew what was best for the
ongoing situation.
“Ok. Sure. Bubye” and he hangs up.
He then immediately calls her up which he had thought to do it
since a few days. But then, ego and hurt did not let him dial the number. Men and ego! You see.
“Hello” replied a manly
voice from the other end.
A lot of background noise from Eshita’s end made it impossible for Sahil to hear
anything.
“Hello, Eshita?!” he confirms.
“Sorry, she is in the
washroom. Mind calling her later” replied the hefty
voiced male.
“Ok. By the way, who
is this?” asked Sahil in a meek
voice.
“This is Anurabh.”
“Ok Anurabh. Tell Eshita that Sahil called. Thanks. Bye” and he hangs up instantly.
Upon disconnecting,
an unsettling chill swept through him. He couldn’t think of anything at all. A gush of thoughts and
questions struck his mind. He was already not well with the happenings and now
having found that Eshita was going out with her ex added kerosene to the fire.
He was in need to
have a word with her and that too as soon as possible.
To be continued….
Sunday, 8 May 2016
An honest Indian Workplace Conversation Between A Guy And His Crush
"This post is a work of
fiction. It has no resemblance with the outside world. In fact, not even a bit
with the writer's life as well. Nah! Not a chance." You
won't think anything like this throughout the post and even after that as well.
And sadly, I can't control your thoughts. Democracy
you see. So, double the enjoyment with your imaginations. Tathastu!
Here is an HONEST (almost) Indian
conversation between a guy and his crush in a random office. Not IT at all. At all. :p
Guy: Hey! Hugs?! No? Ok. *smiles*
Girl: Hi! Fir mil gaya.
*smiles*
Guy: Hungry? Han bol de. Please.
Girl: Yeah. Let's go. Bhookh to lagi he yaar. Subah he,
hopefully zyada chatega nhi. Chal deti hun. *smiles*
Guy: Cool. Let’s leave. Laga hi tha ye naya deo kaam karega. D-Mart
teri jai hoi. *smiles*
Guy: So, lot of work to do?
Yahi question
pooch pooch ke thak gaya hun yaar.
Girl: Han yaar. Bohot zyada.
Pata he..bla bla bla....bla bla bla...!
Guy: Bhai control kar. Yawn mat kariyo. Bakwaas
kar rahi he but sunna to padega. Control. *yawns* *Grins*
Kal raat soya nhi na. Isliye aa rahi he. *hi-hi* Tu bolte reh.
Girl: Nhi yaar. Bus itna hi
tha. Tu suna? Kisse batiya raha tha raat me?! Aaj flirt wagera nhi kar raha mujh se. Pandit
ban gaya kya raato raat?! Roz to bohot Josh me rehta he. Thoda bhao deti hun
tujhe pagal. Dikhati nhi hun bus. Tension na le. Bol bindaas.
Guy: Tu to reply karti nhi he properly.
Movies dekhna padta he. Movie dekh raha tha yaar. Late
soya is karan se. Waise tujhe yaad kiya tha mene. Even dropped a text. Called as
well. But as usual, tune number hi ignore mar diya hoga.
Girl: Oh! When? Let me
check. *she checks* Arey sorry yaar. Just abhi dekha. Waise ghanta phone nhi uthati dekh
bhi leti to. Aur raat me mein kisi ka reply nhi karti bf ka chhod ke, jiske bare me tujhe nhi bataya he.
Guy: Koi nhi. It's ok. Ab to aadat pad gyi he.
Tu suna? Kya huya tere ex bf ka?
Girl: Bataya tha kya tujhe?
Wo na...bla bla bla. Called at night...bla bla bla. Ignored....bla bla bla.
Guy: Oh! To fir scene kya
he tera? Kis
chu ke saath thi tu bhi na. Waise bando ko har dusra banda chu hi lagta he.
Alfa male to khud ko hi mante he sab.
Girl: Kuch nhi. Ab to relationship
wagera nhi kar payungi. Break up has changed me so much. Ab no more
relationships. And dating me karti nhi hun. To zyada sapne mat saja. Waise thoda chance
he tere liye. Chotu sa. So, try to be good to me.
Guy: Haaayee! Dil hi toot
gaya! Lo, chaakoo le lo. Ghusa do. Khel khatam kar do yahi par. But
ese bol ke mat mara karo.
Girl: Hahaha! Hasne ke alawa kar bhi kya sakti hun.
Ladki hun. Attitude maintain karna padta he. Tu bf hota to awww bolke gaal kheech
deti aur side look wali smile. But tere liye hasi hi kaafi he.
Tu kisko dekh raha he?
Guy: Kisi ko bhi nhi! Tujhe. Kasam se. Man to roz karta he
bol dun ki bohot pasand he tu. Gf banja. Rock kar denge. But Rockstar ki tarah,
ye dialogue bhi purana he. Aur sunne ke baad tu muskurahat leke dil me, ignore
karna chalu kar degi mujhe. Kyunki confess karne wale ki feelings to hoti hi
nhi he. Use to bura lagta hi nhi he kuch bhi karo uske saath. Aur in case, tera
bf nikal gaya kahin se to fir to khel khatam. Isliye bolne se darta hun. But like
to tujhe bohot karta hun.
Girl: Chal chupa le. Mat bata
mujhe. Hint
to dete rehta he. Me bhi samajhti hu.
Guy: Arey! Tujh se kya
chupana. Tu to apni he. Mat ungli kar. Bata dunga to fir tera behavior change ho jayega. Meri
kahani ke Index page pe hi the end ho jayega. Mat press kar. Kha pi ke nikal
le.
Girl: Chal anyways, chalte
he ab. Kaam karna he kaafi.
Guy: Han. Bohot ho gaya sach ka samna.
*Both leave*
Arey! Post
khatam ho gaya he. Aapka muskurana khatam ho jaye to baaki post padh sakte he,
ya fir ja sakte he. Waise, jate jate comment karne ka man kare to rukiyega nhi,
kar dijiyega. Aur share karna bhooliyega nhi. Bande ko acha lagega. Dhanywaad.Sunday, 13 September 2015
How many dates does it take to know if he/she is the one?
I
will start with the question itself. ‘How many dates does it take to know if
he/she is the one?’ (Because falling for
a nice body, perfect teeth and old lines are a cliché)
Some
will say, just one. Apparently, these people are a big fan of newspaper
astrology and apps like Tinder and iPair. Sigh.
And traditionally, belong to the love-at-first-sight category, no doubt. (Oh my! That easy!)
Others
will say, two, with their own level of understanding and reasoning. And the
last will be those pessimists who will wave it off saying, you just can’t
decipher it.
Well,
no one is wrong (but the apps don’t work), you see. Even those pessimists. After
all, we are dealing with something tricky, which, though not as hard as rocket
science, but can keep anyone pondering for years to reach an answer.
However,
having an engineering background doesn’t allow me to leave this enticing
question over fate and zodiac signs for God’s sake. We (read: engineers) are
taught (not really) to be logical on every single thing in this
world. Whether it is your dog pooping on the mattress or you reading this great
(I lie at times) article, everything can be answered logically, they
say.
Anyways,
on analyzing the question you will find that the number of dates required to
magically find your soul mate are directly proportional to certain important
points. Those points if paid attention to and checked for, can fetch you your
soul mate in just ONE date (No
money-back guarantee, kidding). Forget one date, but at the earliest. Also,
through those points you can even check whether the things are going on the
right track or have
you taken a wrong flyover.
Following
are the points to be noted (mentally):
1.
Trust: Establishing unshakeable trust is the
first important point. Why? Mostly because, majority of the people who you
presume to be a decent match as your partner is, shockingly, not
looking for one-soul-two-bodies type relationship. They want to have a short
fling (involving genitals) and part ways. In and out, just like that. And for
that, they lie about being in true love with you.
So, it is important to be fully convinced
and trust them on what they do and say. Until cent percent sure, you should not
move ahead with anything else. After all, you can’t trust a con man to win a
battle with you!
You can take precautions like the following example
(if you are a girl). And if you are a boy, then hallelujah man!
Your Date: Hey, where are you?
I miss you. I am ALONE tonight.
Wanna come watch
a movie at my place? ;)
You: Unfortunately,
this user does not accept messages after dark.
Please
try calling/messaging during daylight hours. Thank you!
Ahem! That escalated too quickly as an example.
But, you can improvise, am sure.
2. Happiness: Second
point to check for is happiness. It is important to live your life with
your better half with a glee (not all the time, though, muscle pain,
you see). So, check for a happiness percentage without a calculator and those
apps (you well know). And make sure that it comes almost 100% considering those
mild altercations and arguments at times.
Ultimately,
happiness is the key to success and definitely a master-key to a
successful relationship. So, point number two to check for is happiness. A
genuine one. Making sense. Period.
3. Love: Ah!
We are finally onto something that this whole thing is pretty much
dependent upon; Love. Make you skip a heartbeat whenever you hear
that word and a picture of your partner cinematically (with DDLJ music
playing in the background) crosses your mind, doesn’t it?. Stop.
This is
tricky because most people are initially infatuated or smitten by the other
person and they confuse it with love. And this happens more than often. So, do
not be doubtful when evaluating this thing.
‘He can stretch hands in slow motion and bend his
head to 15 degrees, just like Shahrukh Khan. I have found my love of life.’
WAIT!
What?! Do not analyze love like this!
Be
conscious and not childish in questioning yourself whether you love them truly,
madly and deeply. And in return, whether they love you too. If the answer is
100% yes, then congrats, you have three points checked. And what’s more
necessary than love between two people, right? (Oxygen and money, of course,
but that’s purely logical. Be dil-logical here.)
4. Compatibility: ‘All
right, trust, happiness and love, checked. Everything set. So, he/she is the
one for me.’
If
this is going through your mind right now, then please, please stop
thinking.
You
may wonder, why?!
And
that is a valid question. So, let me put you through it with the help of an
example.
Consider
a cricket player who has a brilliant regional cricket record, is
great looking from the market’s perspective and is highly rated. Can you still
jump into conclusion and decide him to play an international match against the
best team, considering you are the prime selector?
You
will give him a chance, right? Just to test his credibility. You will give him
more chances to make your assumption rock solid. And only when you are fully
satisfied, he will be made permanent in the team.
Apparently,
all this time, you will not hurry and get effected by external sources at all
for making a final decision. Tell me if am wrong.
So,
why to hurry while making an important life commitment? You have been patient
all this long. Have some more of that to test him/her on how they gel-up with
you under different situations.
To
be specific, how compatible are the two of you in real. For this, spend more
time with them. Associate them with your life cycle and share your problems. Do
something together apart from you-know-what (Three letter word. Starts with ‘S’
and ends with ‘X’).
Something
meaningful that will clear the cloud from how they tackle problems with you.
Whether they lose their calm or stand with you throughout it. Because this is a
very important aspect of life.
And, as
a matter of fact, who stands with you deserves you more than anybody else.
Deserves to be ‘the one’.
So,
these are the points to observe before settling for anybody. And if validation
of these take one date (really!) or a couple more, will be totally situational.
Best
wishes. (I soon expect a cheque)
Wednesday, 27 May 2015
How to keep your relationship going after graduation?
The
first year of the college is very special for everybody. It is a new start for
some people and for others it proves to be a platform to carry forward their old
legacy. But whatever is the case, everyone does savor it. Also, a few gets into
a relationship or start to date. Others keep exploring their perfect partner to
share a bond with. While another segment has come bonded from school.
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Anyway,
if it doesn’t happen in the first year, then possibly on 2nd, 3rd
or maybe 4th; wait, 4th year,
really?! And in case, it doesn’t happen at all, then welcome to this group of
singles who never mingled of which this blog’s owner is a proud member. Proud,
why? You will figure out soon.
So,
the thing is that you get into love in any year of the college. But now, as
soon as the 4th year comes and you blink, magic happens; the year is
at its end. You are about to be a graduate. Finally going to have a degree, may
be a job sooner or later, will get to see new places and what not? So many
possibilities and so much fun.
The
good, bad, whatever 4 years are about to end with tons of memories. A lot of
which you want to preserve along with the people involved in it. You want your
friends (maybe just a handful) to be with you for the life ahead. And you
definitely want your other half to be with you as well. In fact, you both have
already named your first child in a few of the discussions in this while,
right? But all this looks shaky all of a
sudden because an end to a routine is about to come. Your college life is about
to end. You are going to be at home, improving your skin tone. Congrats!
But
this is not what you want. You would happily accept darker shades and a few
pimples at the cost of your beloved ones. Or at least for that one person for
sure. But life won’t give so easily what you desire for. Every hello has a
goodbye to the other side.
So,
in this situation, it is hard to maintain your long lived relationship. After all,
the roads are about to be diverted when your love is at its peak. Your family
plannings are going to end without a court trial. Your darlo, baby, sweeto , etc are going to part ways. And all
this just gets into your nerve.
Amidst
this situation of dilemma, frustration and sadness, what can you do to keep
your relationship going?
Before
you read any further, I would like to tell you that I am only suggesting a few
points. For a detailed case study, you can send a cheque to fix an appointment.
Thank you.
Anyway,
how can you keep your relationship alive? Here are a few points to consider:
1.
Talk. Yes,
talking can cure a lot of things. Solitude will only multiply the frustration.
So, talk to each other about it. Be frank, lucid, pragmatic and considerate. This
will make a way to a solution.
2.
If after
talking you reach to a no conclusion stage, then either stay in a long distance
relationship as long as you both can. Technology can only not make the two of
you touch each other, rest is possible. Utilize it.
3.
If this seems
to be tough then opt for being friends. However, this is difficult and you know
it. So, think before you accept the offer. Awkward situations will sink you
soon. Choose wisely.
4.
With a heavy
heart, break up. Huff… *long silence* This is the only solution after everything
fails. But, even if you do this, do on a good note. That will make the pain
dissolve with time and you will easily accept the reality.
So, these are my free advices. You may also book
me for a personal session at low prices. Summer sale.
In the end, all good things must come to an end; which
ones? That you are to decide. For me, it is this post. See you soon.
Monday, 23 February 2015
A random post
Every
time I step in to put something on my not-at-all famous (stats reveal) blog I
carry a bag full of stories, events and lessons all for free. However, this bag
has only 1 section, so everything is kept inside the same, which eventually
ends up creating a crazy mixture of all those things that I wish to say. In
short, right now I have no idea where this post is heading. But, I am happy
that you are still reading it, patiently looking for something, carrying along,
bearing all of it. And trust me, this is the best thing.
It
is so good to see people be with you through your journey. Even if it is for a
short time, it feels good. You have somebody who can vouch for you, help you
and above everything, be with you. Being together is the most important part. And
that gives a feeling of satisfaction and bliss. (NOTE:
This has been written irrespective of the gender of the other person. This
shouldn’t be confused with a boy-girl relationship. Perspective is totally
neutral. Thank you!)
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| True, right? |
However,
we don’t realize this thing, this one important thing until we start on our
own. When we don’t have people from our daily life who have been a constant support
just by being there; when we just can’t be lazy enough to procrastinate our
work or put it on others (if possible); or I should say, when we have new faces
all around us, that is the moment when we start to miss all of the above
things. Being together, so as to put.
In
the end, I would say that be good with people, if not then don’t be bad at least,
because you would never know when you might need their support. And trust
me; ‘support’ is more than just a word. Live alone and you will understand.
Enough said.
So,
that’s all for free. You can subscribe to this blog of mine where I have been
posting some or the other thing till 2014. Haven’t been able to keep up the
same in 2015 so far, but hey, this is just February, right? So, subscribe
anyway and get amused, tickled and lectured at random times. I don’t make big
promises. Also, you can contact me through the contact form available on this
blog. I always reply to your messages because I hardly get any. Don’t laugh, I
actually don’t receive any message. But that being said, you can always make a
change. I love to see changes. And, until next time, good morning, good
afternoon and good night. Sayonara.
Friday, 12 September 2014
6 Signs She Is Not Into You
Everybody
experiences a point in their life when they are smitten with somebody. In case
of boys, this happens more than often. Sometimes, almost every other day.
Anyway, keeping off tharkipana from this discussion, let us switch back to some
prudent stuff.
So,
you are looking forward to a girl since a very long time. And, just to make
your place in her heart because you have an infatuation or love (whatever) for
her, you call and message her umpteen times a day. You try every means that is
out there just to get a place in her heart. But, somehow, you are unsure of her
feelings for you, if any!
There
also comes a point when you lose all your sense and temper thinking that had
you put that many efforts to get an apartment in a metro city, it would have
yielded great results. Even you recall mantra from a baba who has tremendous
experience of love life and all that jazz: ‘Pyaar
ka chakkar he bada bhayankar, isiliye haath jodo aur bolo Jai Shiv Shankar, Jai
Shiv Shankar’
However,
in spite of all these sensible (or insensible) thoughts and gyaan, your heart
just doesn’t want to throw in the towel. So, what to do now? How to check
whether your dream girl is into you or not?
So,
for the same, here are certain points that will help you to cross check whether
you have successfully booked a flat in her heart or you need to move on looking
for another building (whatever):
1.
You are the one
who always calls/texts: Are you the
one who always calls her or texts her at the first place? Are you? And, even
after your constant calls or texts, she responds once in a blue moon? Does it
happen? If it happens, then my friend, she is not into you.
2.
She is not
ready for a relationship: Well, this is
the most common line that every girl uses when she is cornered by her one-sided
lover. But, there is a hidden meaning to it. Do you know what?
By this sentence, she means that she is not ready
for a relationship with you (forever). Seriously, people never reconsider their
statements while breaking somebody else’s heart, especially of a person with
whom they are not bonded. So, my Dhanush from Ranjhaana, stop chasing your Zoya
because waha kuch nhi hoya! Move on.
3.
She is busy: Remember, nobody is ever busy for a person they
like. This is a universal truth. Don’t believe me? Then recall all your
coaching bunks for that ‘someone special.’ Kuch yaad aaya?!
So, if she constantly gives you a ‘I was busy’
reason for not getting in touch or avoiding contact, whatever, then that is a
clear signal my friend; change the course and move in the other direction. The
girl is gone.
4.
She talks about
other guys with you: May be, you
are lucky and your dream girl actually talks to you more than often. But,
thehro (in Shaktimaan’s voice), did you notice what she talks about? Please pay
attention to that because if she brings other guys in the conversation with
you, then you are not going to make it to her heart. In other words, your girl
is booked my friend. Sorry.
5.
She doesn’t
laugh at your jokes: Laholbilakubat!
A guy here finally cracks a great joke but that didn’t ring a bell to her. Such
a bad situation. If this is something that you can relate to, then the time has
come to flush her memories my Kapil Sharma.
6.
She tries to
set you up with somebody else: Omg!
Here you are trying to book a seat and she is all into setting you up with
somebody else. Now, given that disastrous situation, you can only wish that the
other person she is fixing you with is not a boy. Otherwise, Dostana 2 will
soon hit the theatres with or without your consent. Bhaiya, time he, ijjat ki socho aur nikal lo.
At last, if she exhibits one of the above signs,
it doesn't bode well for your cause. If she exhibits two to three of these
signs, you can be pretty certain that she is not interested. If you are noticing
more than three of the above signs, listen carefully, because it is never going
to happen. Trust me, it is that clear.
So, if you are the unlucky one, then pack your bag
and complain about the sour grapes, as most of us always do, and leave. After
all, self-respect matters a lot and in India, it is more than just a word.
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