Sunday, 29 September 2013

IS FRIENDSHIP POSSIBLE WITH YOUR EX ?

Sunday, September 29, 2013 By , , 14 comments



This question is encountered by almost every individual who has ever been in love with somebody and suffered a bad ending afterwards. Indeed, relationship brings along a lot of hope and happiness with it. Truly, while being in a relationship, life seems to be like a jug of honey and you find yourself as a bear, who is bearing his/her beloved, bravely. No offense. 

Furthermore, it all goes absolutely fine until the obvious problems of being in a relationship kicks in. If things get messy, and eventually turn out to be unsolved between the couples, it results into a breakup.  In other cases, either  the boy or the girl loses the “interest” and leaves their “only one” giving some reasons which the other person greets as “bullshit”. In a matter of few minutes; ‘baby’ turns into a ‘bitch’ and the so-called ‘darling’, turns into a ‘dog’.

So, whatever be the reason behind the breakup, is it possible to be friends with your EX? Clearly, the answer will vary from person to person. Some “highly open minded” people or  people in a relationship currently, will answer that it is really very feasible and possible to be friends with whom you were/are in love. To the contrary, the other category of people will have a totally different answer. So, this goes with the perception of an individual.

However, no matter how many times people state that it is possible to be friends with your EX and bla bla bla.. But genuinely introspect and you will have an answer which will be precisely or nearly same to what am going to tell you. The answer will be, no matter whether you can be friends or not, but it definitely hurts whenever you see them with somebody else who is rumored to be their current partner. Isn’t it? Don’t lie.

So, trust on 1 thing that, if breaking up is tough, then maintaining a friendship after that is even tougher.

NOTE: Do NOT go by the quote, ‘If the going gets tough, the tough get going’. As, if you try doing so, then there is a dreary situation waiting for you on the other side. Thus, part ways and ultimately be happy rather than chasing around and living on false hope.


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14 comments:

  1. fairly justified hwevr my opinion differs :)
    it's totally possible to be friends with ur EX (unless dey really cant be 4given)
    just coz our notion of a gd hpy life differed and v couldnt make it there doesnt mean dat the other person is bad..
    people often remember the shit the so called probable significant other pulls up and regret and repent the relationship..I say..remember the happy memories..cherish the good moments and move on..:) be friends and mature to let go and let them be :)

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    1. I respect your opinion :) But, this thing totally goes by an individual's perception. Even if the decision for being friends is mutual, one of the person always wants to get back in the relationship which screws up the situation ultimately. There are always hidden expectations present until the two of them part ways completely.

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  2. Well though reasons for breakup may be different but it is often observed that divorced couples develop a certain sense of trust on each other in certain areas which is one of the quality of relationship
    For say javed Akhtar and his first wife ..nd many more
    but conditions apply the breakup is mutual

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    1. I agree on this issue that separated people do have a hidden trust on each other. But then even you just can't be the same like before. Things change. More importantly, people change.

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    2. Totally , I agree they can not be same . But to add on change never happens overnight that's gradual process which takes time and situations both. :) and may be the perspective of viewing a other person changes or may be both. For ex an over caring partner when in relationship may seem to be to loving and caring but post relationship same is viewed as possessive or obsessive quality.
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    3. Correct. Change is a time taking process and certainly the perception matters of both the individuals :)

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  3. Rather than individual perception, It is more of the sort of relationship that existed b/w th 2. It it is as per th norms of th 21st century, moving on is th best option. But if you had been like mad fr yrs, moving on and ending into merely frnds can never be a wise option fr you.
    Cz no matter wat, the inner feelings gonna lustre out if you evr felt fr d prsn. Lov cannot just get extinct by a mere thought of moving on.
    Btw, glad 2 c u blog. Was neva aware of it..you've already joined my community I guess :)

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    1. I agree completely that love just can't vanish on a mere thought of moving on (Y)
      Plus, welcome to my place (this blog) :)
      Delighted to know that you liked my blogging O:)
      Yeah, I've already joined you community, it's pretty nice (Y)

      Keep visiting O:)

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  4. A true post, Varun - Lol....Baby bitch...Darling dog....nice ...
    Looks like you've experienced something :P ;)

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    1. Delighted to know that you liked it Akash :)
      And such things are SO common now-a-days, one doesn't need to experience it in person when you have friends around :P
      Keep visiting O:)

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  5. agreed, it depends person to person and kind of mutual realtionship both had, i think it's more kind fo a chance that they can't be friends now, just knowing themselves or it is you just a relationship like fairytale doesn't firt the meanings of friendship, yet it sounds like a crap"move on" to those person, but it is ultimately the best solution, time will heal up i guess....

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    1. Legit :)
      Keep visiting Sachin O:)
      Tc :)

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  6. cutieayesha025@ymail.com14 May 2014 at 23:26

    Good reasons. .nice post..it feels like reading a teenager's writer story review... :)

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    1. Thank you :)
      Delighted to know that you liked the post.
      Plus, I'm a teenager :P

      Keep visiting O:)

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