Monday, 7 October 2013


Monday, October 07, 2013 By , , 10 comments

Tharki, as the Urban Dictionary describes, is referred to ‘a person who is always seduced. He could not control him once he saw any girl even she is married’. In short, a ‘horny bastard’. Well, if somebody is offended with the short definition of ‘Tharki’, then frankly, I don’t give a shit about it BECAUSE when some random people do ‘Tharkipana’ and aren’t ashamed of it later on, then why should I be using decent words to greet them?

Anyway, following are some of the daily life incidences of ‘Tharkipana’ that takes place, undoubtedly, in almost every city. Although, here are just three random scenes but trust me, there are hell lot of other vicious scenarios that takes place every day.

You might be thinking, how unscrupulous somebody can be? Frankly, I don’t have an answer for it. As, the moment I decide the lowest point of wickedness anybody can possess, I get to encounter something that is even more shameful, in subsequent days.

Without any doubt, there might be a lot of questions in our mind after going through the above 3 scenes, which supposedly can be:

1.    How can we minimize ‘Tharkiness’ in India? Yes, minimize! As, terminating it thoroughly isn’t practically possible! This is the appalling reality.
2.    How can ‘Tharki’ people be spotted in real life?
3.    How can we (girls) protect ourselves from them (tharki)?

I asked a few of my girl friends to answer the above questions. The reason was that, they (girls) are the prime victims, so getting their views on it will be fairly beneficial.

The answer for the 1st question that I received was that, we should inculcate moral values in these (tharki) people right since childhood. A wise solution. But, the question that comes up is that will this guarantee that in the future the person won’t get into that stream of eve-teasing and all such anti-women activities? Up to some point we can say ‘Yes’. But, is it the perfect remedy for the problem? Of course, ‘No’.

So, what should we do to teach them (Tharkis) a solid lesson and consequently abate such activities?

We should use force. As it is said, ‘Laato ke bhoot baton se nhi mante’. In the same way, it is highly mandatory to give those people some serious punishment, either by the ‘Janta’ (Public) that too, ‘on-the-spot’ or leave it to the ’Kanoon’. However, a majority will prefer going with the former method to settle the issue i.e. ‘On-spot-thukai’. Otherwise, the victim will only receive ‘Tareekh-Pe-Tareekh’… and no justice whatsoever.

Another valid solution was to make their (Tharki’s) mother and sister (if any) to go through the same scenario. That way they will have a deep sense of realization and this might change their behavior. However, it is practically a lot less possible. Just mere coincidence can make it work.

Moving on to question number 2 i.e. How can ‘Tharki’ people be spotted in real life? Well, it is a really difficult task to do. It is almost like searching your cell phone all around the house which is in silent mode (no vibration either). But, as one of my friends answered, they (girls) can intuit a majority of time by looking on to the guy’s face whether he is a ‘Tharki’ or not. Well, I don’t really know the credibility of this nature’s gift. Still, I definitely wish that it works at the right time.

Lastly, the 3rd and the final question which is, how can girls protect themselves from unscrupulous activities?

Truly, this question really got me into thinking for almost a week but fortunately and surprisingly, I found the answer in one of the most boring places i.e my college. The solution was suggested by My Fm’s RJs who happened to visit my class out of sheer luck.

They (RJ Parul and RJ Prameesh) were there for the promotion and support of the WWF (WOMEN WITHOUT FEAR) initiative which encourage girls to live freely in the society without any sort of fear from anybody.

The remedy that they gave was that the girls have a large ‘invisible’ support from the opposite gender, which can be utilized at the right time to shoo the tharkis away. So, if anybody from next time happens to exhibit any sort of ‘tharkipana’ with you, just feel free to shout at the top of your voice and then leave the rest over the public and enjoy the show.

In the end, please share this post to aware as many people (especially girls) as possible.
Padhega India Tabhi To Badhega India’.

NOTE- If the title of the post has hurt anybody’s feelings then am tremendously sorry for it.


  1. Well your post was thought provoking but i dont agree that you should do the same with victimizers mother and sister because Eye for an eye will leave the world blind.

    1. Even am against it but in the post I've kept the points of people whom I interrogated with the same questions.

  2. The cartoons are really funny. Thanks for writing an article over such an important topic.

  3. bwahahahah! :'D LOVED IT! humor is the way

    1. Thank you :)
      Overwhelmed to know that you liked it sooo much :)

  4. Hey interesting way to put it but I guess the better solution comes
    A) when u spot one tharki keep an eye on him and let him know he is being observed.
    B) girls need to learn smart ways to handle thse people .a sandle can not handle them permanently

    1. Well, keeping a constant watch on 1 person is easy up to a certain limit, but then there are millions in just India! May be dissimulating them that they are being watched will be a better option as to what I feel. Plus, I totally agree, sandals are not a permanent solution for this issue.

    2. well Varun sixth sense works in these cases. If you sense some person it abusive or harassing any one male/female particular sexual harassment (which includes all things which makes the other parthy uncomfortable staring and remarks are inclusive). Showing these people that they are being watched and action will be taken against them if they dont stop works like miracles

    3. Ain't doubting the efficiency of the solution but just the viability of it.